There’s an expression that Poet Robbie Burns is famous for: Best-laid plans of mice and men oft(en) go astray, and best-laid schemes o’ mice an’ men gang aft a-gley. In other words, things often go wrong even though you have carefully planned what you are going to do. (The gang aft a-gley version is Scots dialect, and comes from Robert Burns’ poem “To a Mouse.”)
So let’s talk about you:
You’ve set your Vision and goals of what you want to create, live, and be this year, however very quickly, things outside of your control can alter the speed or course of that Vision. Life happens, unexpected events occur and one of two things will result:
1. You will focus on what you “don’t want” which will lead to more of the same… exactly what you don’t want, including your emotional state/experience.
2. Or, you will focus on what you DO want, including your positive emotional state, which will create just that; the reality of joy and your greatest desires fulfilled.
The beauty of absolutely keeping your focus only on what you do want to feel and create, is the INSTANT relief it provides:
- By switching your focus from stress and negative emotion, you take control of what you want to experience in the moment; peace or an “I can handle it attitude,” are always good choices..
- You think more creatively and begin to see new possibilities; you become more effective; remember negative emotion impedes the brain.
- You increase focus and a positive mental attitude for consistency in effectiveness, solutions and inspired, authentic action
- Creativity, expansiveness, intuition and mind power expand (as opposed to the reverse)
- Course correction, an essential yet easily overlooked tool to personal growth becomes more automatic
- And most importantly, keeping your focus on what you DO want, helps to foster Mindfulness which is about paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-Judgmentally (Jon Kabat-Zinn)
So how best to create these benefits and avoid the potential hazards that can trip us up in following our Vision?
1. Think of yourself as an athlete in training.
By visioning you decided to make your life better; that includes releasing the pain of change as it comes up.
2. Know your Stress Patterns
They’re the habits that switch your focus from “do want” to “don’t want” – what triggers them? Brainstorm solutions so you’re prepared for life’s predictable curve balls.
3. Course correct those stress patterns through awareness and focus… acting in unity with your vision in itself creates unification.
4. Keep your focus on what you love to do. All the time!
As Susan Jeffers warned in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, “Your mind only take off on its own when you’re not telling it what to do”.
5. Keep a Gratitude/Blessings Journal – it increases your vibrational frequency; the energy that aligns you to your higher values, be a magnet for appreciation!