Following your “Calling” in Life and Business

by Cheryl Brewster

Do you have a “calling” for the business you’re in or the life you want to lead? Or perhaps you feel a  shift coming;  a whisper inside  that isn’t clearly audible yet. It  seems to be nudging you to something different, but you’re not sure of what that is..What is your response when this happens? Are you curious or do you unconsciously begin to go into stress mode, and shut down? So many of us judge uncertainty, missing out on its gifts, but it’s a very important and necessary phase of self growth.

Re-frame uncertainty – its polar opposite lies just beneath the surface
Usually the only difference between  uncertainty and trust is the decision to believe in ourselves and our ability to handle change.  Self trust can only grow from the willingness to be in discomfort and take action anyway. When we decide to trust ourselves, we release perfectionism and drop destructive self judgment. Only then can we embrace the calling for change. It takes time. It doesn’t happen over night.

Uncertainty can be frightening and paralyze us from taking action, no matter how powerful our dreams are.   Gregg Levoy in his book “Callings”  describes this beautifully: “We love to quote the philosopher and poet Goethe who said that “whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.” But we forget that he also said, “To put your ideas into action is the most difficult thing in the world.” 

It all begins with our willingness to be in the discomfort of uncertainty and re-framing that discomfort into action

The poem in the head is always perfect, Stanley Kuntiz once remarked. The challenge comes when we try to convert it into language. This is especially so when we discover, as we often do, that saying yes to a calling requires not just one act of heroism and risk taking but a prolonged period of action that can stretch into years.”

How do we maintain the heroism required for these long periods of time? 

1. Use the breath to be with your fear of lack, whether that’s time, money or control, etc. Witness it, let it be there and acknowledge the subsequent feelings.
2. Notice the chemical reactions in your body… very powerful! But are you these chemical reactions or the awareness of them?
3. As the Awareness... what do you now choose to create? Breathe through uncertainty, let it be there which allows you to actually  let it go. As the Awareness, connect to what’s been here all along; trust in yourself and in life.
4. Always take time to be present with the breath; it releases the fear of change and puts the peace and confidence of your inner knowing back in the driver’s seat of your life.

Uncertainty is a part of following your calling. Putting your ideas into action is the most difficult thing in the world. Solutions begin with the breath; it slows things down, brings you back to the present, releases stress and invites clarity. Be brave; be willing to slow down and do things differently.

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How do I love Me? Let Me Count the Ways!

by Cheryl Brewster

Do you love yourself as much as you wish to be loved?
Do you gift yourself the nurturing that you most crave?
Do you allow yourself to receive even when it feels uncomfortable?
Are you willing to be present with your pain and let blame go?

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi

While Valentines is traditionally for lovers and romance, Rumi’s quote invites introspection whether you are in a romantic relationship or not. Are you willing to find the barriers within that prevent love’s full experience?

In my mentoring with clients and in my own life, the significance of self-love is HUGE! We live in a society that is rush, rush, rush…. I’m beginning to believe that the highest form of self-love is extricating ourselves from the death grip of frantic, frenetic over commitments and schedules. To that end, Valentines becomes a very important Self-Love Day:

1. What can I give myself today, that contributes to my own self acceptance?
2. Imagine never saying an unkind thing to yourself again! What would that do to your outlook?
3. Tap even more to the divine mind within. What’s there? What’s life like from this expanded perspective? What would the goddess/god within say to you about you?
4. What regret or judgment can you let go of, to love yourself/others more fully?
5. If you had no barriers to loving yourself/others, how would that change your perception of “reality?”
6. What is that rare, unique quality within you that you have been shy of sharing? Could you share a bit of it today in celebration of the Love you have for you, for the sheer joy of life itself?

Mindfulness this Valentine’s:
1. Being present with your experience without judging it.
2. Paying attention in a particular way.
3. Being on Purpose

Happy Valentines to your Inner Lover… when we move to the divine heart within, we let go with more ease, release the need to control, we give ourselves the most amazing gift of all….

“When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.” Rumi

What does a soul-centred relationship, business, daily schedule look like? We’ll know by how much joy runs through it. We’ll know by how much we’re trusting our soul’s voice, and acting on our intuition.

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Got the Blahs? 5 ways to move them along

by Cheryl Brewster

Let’s be honest with ourselves. Sometimes we go through cycles and no matter how much we try to stay positive, look on the bright side and trust the process, we just don’t FEEL it. And when we don’t FEEL it, motivation to do normal everyday things, let alone propel our visions forward can feel totally out of reach.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

We can shift from “the blahs” very easily by following this simple process:

1. Bless the Blahs
Blessing actually dissipates the blahs while resistance makes them stronger. How do you bless what you don’t like? There are always options. Lots of them… the blahs are letting you know that the choices you’re making right now aren’t giving you the energy you need to be present and enjoying life. They’re letting you know that you are shutting down somewhere. Like a good friend letting you know you’ve got something stuck in your teeth, the blahs are momentarily painful but wouldn’t you rather KNOW?! So blessing the blahs is proactive; it releases that stored up emotional energy in order to….

2. Apply the ABC’s of Prosperous Intuition, Aware/Breathe/Connect
Awareness is everything! Now that you are consciously acknowledging that you have the blahs… rather than ask “why” you have them, a better question is “what am I going to do about them?” Consciously invite three deep breaths and I guarantee that something extraordinary will happen. Possibilities begin to flash through your mind; images, thoughts, inspirations and as you CONNECT with them, your ability to think outside the “box of blahs,” is enhanced… suddenly you realize you have the power to choose something more invigorating and freeing. You realize that “inspired action is a choice,” and you can choose it instantly, which helps you to….

3. De-throne the Critical Voice
Who put it in charge anyway? Notice that when you have the blahs there’s something else in charge… and it ISN’T pretty! It goes for the jugular every single time. When you don’t feel good about yourself, you shut down; you become powerless and helpless to change things. Not anymore! The blahs are an invitation to recognize where you are allowing yourself to be bullied by a harmful voice that is not yours. Be clear: if the voice behind the blahs is not helping focus on solution, drop it. See it for what it is and refuse to listen to it a second longer. This is NOT the voice of intuition. When you Take Your Stand for the affirming voice of intuition rather than the constant berating of the critical voice, positive change does occur!  You are claiming your role as a Conscious Changemaker!

4. Stop the Blame Game now and forever
The critical voice is insidious. It’s focus is purely negative, condemning and life-zapping. In her book Feel the Fear and do it anyway, Susan Jeffers said it best: “Taking responsibility means not blaming yourself. Anything that takes away your power or your pleasure makes you a victim. Don’t make yourself a victim of yourself.” Blame is never the answer. Is there blame in your blah? If so, would you choose to stay in a vat of corrosive chemicals? That’s what you’re doing by staying in blame; this is toxic and needs to stop… NOW. This becomes a way of life; not only a now and then thing.

5. FEEL those positive vibes!
Intuition has only one objective: your highest good. It is always solutions-based. The ABC’s of Prosperous Intuition help you become Aware that the solution is already here; Breathe into it and Connect to that FEELING state of solution… When you attune yourself to the vibration of solution, you purposely put intuition/solutions back into the driver’s seat of your life. You are deliberately trusting the inner wisdom that sees behind the scenes. Suddenly the route and the destination are no longer scary, heavy, overwhelming or out of reach. You do not need to wait for things to change because YOU have; blessing the blahs and releasing the blame game, the critical voice and the past help clear the obstructions to solution that were here all along. You begin to see that every problem is a solution just waiting to be uncovered; you feel lighter, freer and open to the possibilities that exist. You see routes you did not see before, have thoughts you did not think before, and are inspired rather than deflated. Intuition is the key to prosperity on all levels… why? Because it always points you to the solution that is here NOW. So bless those blahs; and you intuitively ignite the flame of prosperity already inside of you…feel the relief and joy of solution here now and let it carry you through inspired action.

Let’s be honest with ourselves. Staying inspired with a clear mind takes effort. Very few people are actually naturally positive most of the time; it does take work! To help achieve a consistent intuitive/positive mindset, consider an intuitive reading or mentor program to get you started on your way to dropping those old patterns and embracing the new ones that your intuition has been whispering to you about! Steve Jobs, founder of Apple Computers said it best, “Intuition is a discipline.”  I couldn’t agree more – I can help! I know what it’s like to struggle with staying positive amid the emotional challenges of stretching those good old comfort zones. That’s why I love what I do; I know solutions exist…. we just need to stay open to them.

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The Quest for Happiness

by Cheryl Brewster

I have found that the authentic life is a simple life; that awakening into deeper truth, authenticity and simplicity is more about dropping things than it is about gaining them.  The desire to connect even more, from this deepest, most authentic part of my heart is what has emerged over the last year. It comes with a high price and yet no price at all, because the letting go while at first glance seems painful, is in reality the letting go of pain. The price that appears so high in the beginning, cannot compare to the value of what is received or restored.

My attempts to explain my experience are summed up best by one of my favorite authors, Anthony de Mello from his book on Awareness… take a look at what he says here about Happiness:

“Do you want to be happy? Uninterrupted happiness is uncaused. True happiness is uncaused. You cannot make me happy. You are not my happiness. You say to the awakened person, “Why are you happy”? and the awakened person replies, “Why not”? Happiness is our natural state. Happiness is the natural state of little children, to whom the kingdom belongs until they have been polluted and contaminated by the stupidity of society and culture. To acquire happiness you don’t have to do anything, because happiness cannot be acquired. Does anybody know why?

Because we have it already. How can you acquire what you already have? Then why don’t you experience it? Because you’ve got to drop something. You’ve got to drop illusions. You don’t have to add anything in order to be happy; you’ve got to drop something. Life is easy, life is delightful. It’s only hard on your illusions, your ambitions, your greed, your cravings. Do you know where these things come from? From having identified with all kinds of labels!

What labels do you have in your life that are not contributing to your happiness? They could be a certain outlook, expectation, assumption, habit, any number of things.  The bottom line is, by dropping this dead weight, happiness emerges. And nothing is more inspiring or contagious than happiness! 

In my intuitive mentorship programs, I stress the importance of the ABC’s of Intuition; become AWARE of the inner wisdom inside, BREATHE it in, and CONNECT to the heart… the same is true of happiness because it’s already here… the power of imagination and enthusiasm expands it even more. So when something challenging or difficult comes up, I encourage the habit of asking the question “What would happiness do in this moment?” The question is brilliant because it surfaces illusions which are in fact delusions to let go of. Try it, you’ll like it! The more I practice this, the easier and more juicy it becomes.

Simple. Authentic. Happy. Awakened.
That easy, that profound, that Wow!